The Normalcy of Non-Traditional Relationships
In a world where monogamy is often seen as the default, living as a throuple—a three-person relationship—can seem unconventional to some. However, for one throuple who has been together for almost four years, their relationship is as ordinary as any other. They watch Netflix, argue over chores, go on vacations, and attend family events, just like any other couple or family. Yet, they find themselves in a unique situation—they are the only throuple they know and often the only one others have ever met.
The Rise of Alternative Relationship Configurations
Recently, alternative relationship configurations have gained attention in the media. TV shows like Channel 4’s The Couple Next Door and Netflix’s You, Me, Her, as well as high-profile relationships like that of Una Healy, David Haye, and Sian Osborne, have brought non-traditional relationships into the spotlight. This increased visibility has also led to a surge in interest on dating apps. Feeld, a dating app catering to individuals interested in polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, has seen a 400% increase in searches for these terms among women. Threesomes continue to be a commonly listed desire on dating profiles.
From Couple to Throuple
For Abby and Paul, their journey into a throuple relationship began unexpectedly. After seven years together, they decided to explore opening up their relationship and joined Feeld. Initially, they sought casual experiences with other individuals, but everything changed when they met Andrea. The three of them hit it off, spending an entire weekend together, and forming a deep connection. When lockdown hit in March 2020, they decided to continue their relationship despite the challenges.
Overcoming Challenges and Growing Together
Living as a throuple comes with its own set of challenges, including the misconception that jealousy is absent in such relationships. Abby admits that jealousy was present in the early stages but served as an opportunity for personal growth and self-reflection. Through open and honest communication, they have navigated their insecurities and boundaries, allowing their relationships to flourish.
Celebrating Love and Milestones
In their throuple, Abby, Paul, and Andrea celebrate each other’s wins and milestones. They go on vacations together, exchange gifts, and create their own traditions. While societal acceptance may not always be guaranteed, their families have